One day, before the great battle of the Mahabharat, Arjun asked Lord Krishna if he could change the situation, their thoughts, and the hatred between the two sides. Arjun wanted peace and asked Krishna to help him in making everyone behave in a certain way. Krishna smiled and explained that as the God, He could do anything. He could stop time, prevent the war, or change the circumstances, but there was one thing He could not do , change someone’s swabhav (nature or behavior).
This statement hit me deeply. It’s so true. We humans often have expectations from others, especially the ones we are attached to. We want them to behave in a certain way, to treat us a certain way, and when they don’t, we get upset. I, myself, have often complained, “Why didn’t they ask me? Why didn’t they try to make me happy? Why did they do that?” and many such thoughts run in my mind. This brings me sadness and frustration.
But when I remembered Krishna’s words, I realized that it’s so hard to change someone’s behavior. People are born with their own nature, and if God Himself cannot change it, who am I to try? I have two options: I can either accept them as they are or walk away.
Expectations, especially from the ones we care about, are very powerful. They can control our thoughts and emotions. While we all know expectations are bad and lead to disappointment, it’s still hard not to have them. Honestly, I don’t ask for too much, but even the smallest thing sometimes feels like a lot. And when those small things are not met, it makes me feel like giving up.
But in the end, I learned this , trying to change someone’s nature is not in my hands. I can only control my own reactions and responses. Expectations will always be there, but I can choose to let them go and accept others for who they are.
So, the next time I feel disappointed or hurt, I’ll remind myself of Krishna’s wisdom: “I can’t change their behavior, but I can change how I respond to it.”
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