Finding Ourselves in Love

Why We Need Others to See Ourselves?

We often hear people say, "You need to love yourself." We try to remind ourselves of this all the time, giving ourselves little validations, telling ourselves that we are enough. But the truth is, we are fragile. It's hard to truly love ourselves without someone else making us realize it.

Have you ever noticed that we often find ourselves, and the love for ourselves, only when someone leaves us? It's like their absence opens a door to self-discovery that we couldn’t see before. Why is that?

I believe we are meant to find ourselves in others too. We don't just exist alone; we understand ourselves better when we see how others view us, treat us, and connect with us. It’s through relationships that we discover our worth, our strengths, and even our weaknesses. In fact, we often fall for parts of ourselves when we meet someone new.

That’s why love is so beautiful. It’s not just about the person we fall for; it’s also about the person we become because of them. When we love someone, we see new sides of ourselves—kindness, passion, patience—that we may not have known were there. And even when love fades or someone leaves, they leave behind lessons and a deeper sense of self.

So maybe, self-love isn’t something we do entirely on our own. Maybe, we need others to show us who we truly are. And that’s what makes love such a powerful, beautiful experience. It helps us find ourselves, again and again, through the people we meet along the way.